Grief is scary. It is uncomfortable and unpredictable. Being with a person who is grieving is all those things. It might be easy, sometimes, to stay away and keep your distance. Surely the grieving person has lots to do and many other people ringing her doorbell and calling her cell phone. Right? Probably not. Before lady grief punched me in the face, I did whatever I could to avoid her. What in the heck do you say to someone who is grieving? Pregrief I wouldn’t have had an answer. Postgrief I would advise: say anything; say nothing. Just be there. As ...