I’ve said this phrase quite a few times - many even. So much so that now, when I hear someone else fall back on these five words, I understand their secret, sorrowful, message.It is what it is. What it means: I can’t change my current circumstances, but I desperately wish I could.Life isn’t fair, and right now it feels very unfair.I feel defeated. Empty. Up against all odds.I want to cry, but don’t want to right now because I’m all cried out.I feel very, very alone.I need a hug. And so on. (You get the gist.) It is what it ...